I moved to Samui 3 years ago, life’s circumstances had shattered my heart wide open and I felt vulnerable and unsure of how to make sense of the pain.
My good friend Dave was there to greet me with a warm, “Welcome home Honey”, his bear hug, beaming smile and a basket of seashells,
I settled in, got busy teaching, working and being. The pain was still there and so was Dave,
His face always lit up when he saw me, really saw me, his hugs were always true, always 100% present. He told me I looked beautiful when I couldn’t have felt any further from that and graciously lent me the ear and comfort of his beloved Dorien. He gave us so much space to enjoy the beautiful friendship I so cherish.
Dave was there, always present: dinners shared, music, stories, laughter, precious full moon fires on the beach…slowly rebuilding my trust in the goodness of the human heart.
It’s interesting to look back and reflect on the defining part that some people subtly and naturally play in our lives.
When Dave first shared his prognosis his decision was clear. He accepted the news with, as Dorien expressed: “the humility, grace and good humor that had always been who he truly was”.
He told us that he had found a place of true peace and quiet in the hills of Northern Thailand where he could have a “natural birth”.
Love poured out from Dave’s many friends around the world, his global family, and now tributes flow sharing stories of a life well lived…my story is one of many. Dave touched lives and hearts wherever he lived.
Before leaving for Chiang Mai, Dave distributed all he owned to those he knew would need it. He left with a small duffle bag of belongings in hand, no debts, no skeletons in the closet.
Dave prepared his beloved Dorien’s home so she could return without the stuff…a clutter of memories but rather with the true, unfading knowledge that she was deeply and truly loved by an extraordinary man…
On one of those precious evenings, before he headed North, Dave shared that he had got his heart broken so many times it finally stayed open…
In The Sacred Path of the Warrior, Chögyam Trungpa writes:
‘The genuine heart of sadness comes from feeling that your nonexistent heart is full. You would like to spill your heart’s blood, give your heart to others. For the warrior, this experience of sad and tender heart is what gives birth to fearlessness. Conventionally, being fearless means that you are not afraid or that, if someone hits you, you will hit him back. However, we are not talking about that street-fighter level of fearlessness. Real fearlessness is the product of tenderness. It comes from letting the world tickle your heart, your raw and beautiful heart. You are willing to open up, without resistance or shyness, and face the world. You are willing to share your heart with others.’
Our Dave was a true yogi, a warrior with a clear, open, tender heart.
I know, in time, Dorien, will share her heart.
For now I leave you with these beautiful words her daughter Trine so eloquently shared:
Please! Continue to joyfully navigate this New Birth….
returning wholly to energetic essence.
Yet, if you have a moment to spare
in your ecstasy within Gods Gracious Embrace.
Perhaps send us a wave here, in clear communion…
rainbow prism lights, calm currents, soothing whispers from within
Especially for my mother….
especially, sacredly, for her heart,
in the way only you know how.
Wherever else you may be…
I see you… here…
in the star, in the newborn’s eyes, in the child’s courage, in the healing hand …..
Where the wisdom is.
Where it counts.
Your new language lapping at the edges of form and formlessness
From my limited perspective, It’s all so unknown.
Yet for you
so close to reality,
the Unknown creates concentric circles…
from the inside out
the way a tree grows on Earth.
the way a pebble drops into a pond
Comforting, Steady, Resonant.
Thank you for coming though my life like a shooting star.
So many souls you have touched!
Your love echoes through us all…
Thank you for cracking my mothers heart open
so she could receive a love beyond logic
Walk with us and lets do this!
Lets get this Earth Ascended!
Sacred and Sovereign!
I know you will assist tirelessly from behind the scenes…
Help me learn my lines and do my part
with strength, courage
and a “Big Wave Dave” kind of heart.